好朋友們相聚閒聊時，也互相問侯近況，
但有多少人是認真和細心聆聽對方所說，
再給予適當的回應 ?!
一位不懂聆聽的朋友，便不懂回應，
更不會給予適當的安撫，
情況會是雪上加霜
!
有位作者寫到
:
一位不常見面的好友，
當我訴說近況時，無論是長或短，
總是直望著我，耐性地聽完我說，
才給回應，溫柔貼身的回應。
記得他曾寫:
When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving me advice,
You have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me
and you begin to tell me why
I shouldn’t feel that way,
you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me
and you feel you have to do something
to solve my problem,
you have failed me,
strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I ask is that you listen.
Don’t talk or do – just hear me…
And I can do for myself; I am not helpless.
Maybe discouraged and faltering,
but not helpless.
When you do something for me that
I can and
need to do for myself,
you contribute to my fear and inadequacy.
But when you accept as a simple fact
that I feel what I feel, no matter how irrational,
Then I can stop trying to convince you and
get about this business of understanding
what’s behind this irrational feeling.
And when that’s clear,
the answers are
obvious and I don’t need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when
we
understand what’s behind them.
So please listen, and just hear me.
And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn
and I will listen to you.
One time or another we don’t need advice.
We just need somebody to listen.
When you need that somebody, talk to me, I
am all ears.
原文是英文，我嘗試譯成中文:
「當我請求你聽我講話時，
然後你開始給我建議，
你沒有按照我的要求去聆聽。
當我請求你聽我講話時，
然後你開始告訴我為何這樣那樣，
我不應有這種感覺，
其實，你已踐踏了我的感情。
當我請求你聽我講話時，
你覺得你必須做些什麼，解決我的問題，
其實，你已辜負了我的需要 : 聆聽
聽！ 我只要求你的聆聽。
不需開口說什麼或做什麼事，只聽我講，
我可以為自己做事; 我並非無能為力。
或者只是灰心喪氣和動搖，但並非無奈。
當你為我做了一件我可以而且需要為自己做的事情時，
你助長了我的恐懼和不足。
但是，當你接受一個簡單的事實時，
感受到我所感受到的，無論多麼不理智，
然後停止試圖說服我，
而瞭解背後的內容，一種非理性的感覺。
當這一點清楚時，答案就很明顯了，
我不需要建議。
當我們瞭解非理性的感覺背後的原因時，
它們就有意義了。
所以請聽我說。
如果您想交談，請稍等片刻，
輪到你時，我會聆聽你的。
有時我們不需要建議。
我們只需要有人傾聽。」
“Listening is love in action”
如果愛，請用心安靜地聆聽，
瞭解話語背後的意義和因由。
